Texting No-No #1: When One or Both of You Are Upset Never discuss emotional issues while texting.For your part, never initiate texts to discuss emotional issues or the fact that you’re upset about something.
READ: Think Your Boyfriend Would Never Snoop Through Your Phone? Say clearly, “I always think it’s better to talk as opposed to sending texts or emails which can confuse things more.” If your date doesn’t pick up or responds with a text that says he or she can’t talk and can only text (e.g., he’s in a meeting), pick up the phone again and leave a message that says to call you later during a particular time frame.Think Again For your date’s part, he or she shouldn’t be texting about emotional issues either! For example, say, “Call me anytime between 6 and 10 tonight when you have a chance.” Pressing pause on the texting also helps to remind you that there is no manic rush to solve the problem immediately.If he or she sends a text that broaches any type of emotional issue (e.g., Are you mad at me? Sometimes sitting with your feelings is much better than acting on them.Texting No-No #2: When You Want the Intimacy of a Real Conversation Sometimes, a text is going to provide enough emotional connection for you; other times, you are going to want more: a real, live voice on the other end that actually has a beating heart inside.Calling all human beings who date: Texting as the go-to means of communication needs to stop!
There is definitely a time and place for texting, but I’m sorry, that time is not every moment of every day.
It’s a legitimate question to ask: When should I call and when should I text?
READ: How Specific Texts Can Ruin (or Save) Your Relationship As a rule, call when you want to hear your date’s voice, when you’re upset, and when you plan on talking for a few minutes or longer.
On the other hand, text to say hello, good morning or good night, or to make specific plans that don’t require an actual phone conversation.
When you first start dating someone, share what your expectations are for calls and texts. If you’re someone who loves the phone as much as I love my plush living room couch at the end of a long day, connecting on the phone is something you probably need — and there is nothing wrong with that.
At the start of a relationship, don’t be afraid to spell out how — and how often — you like to communicate.