Even if the other person is being nasty, don’t engage and make it a fight.
This is how people end up burning each other’s possessions, so don’t go that route. First say something nice, next slip in your concern, and then end with something positive.
You are an awesome person, and I wish nothing but the best for you.” Sure, some relationships end mutually, but most don’t.
Your girlfriend is probably going to be a little blindsided by the breakup.
Surprises can make the mind jump around erratically.
She may resist the breakup at first by bringing up old memories or trying to dissuade you with physical contact or emotional arguments. The more prepared you are, the smoother the breakup will go. Teens Health advises young romantics to think through their decision to break up and feel clear about why it’s necessary before acting.
You’re breaking up for a reason, so make sure you communicate that.
Hit your bullet points without taking overly long: “Danielle, we have been fighting too much, and it’s not healthy. I’ve thought a lot about it, and I’m not interested in working on it — I just want to move on.” Say it out loud to yourself beforehand.Get your mouth used to physically saying the words.Try to also think about what their reactions/arguments will be and prepare answers for them. It’s no fun getting dumped, and it’s no fun doing the dumping.But sometimes breaking up is necessary, and you just have to roll up your sleeves and get it over with. Swizzle said, “So it’s gonna be forever/Or it’s gonna go down in flames.” No one is perfect at breaking up, and we could all try to be better.I’ve got 8 tips — backed by studies — to make this tough situation easier.